People that relapse after rehab
Relapse rate with aftercare
Recreate provides addiction aftercare services in and around Cape Town, with over 42 years of experience helping people to solve their addiction problems permanently, I have learned which methods are effective and which are not.
It is a lifelong process of change, new skills, regaining trust, independent living, making new friends, generosity, dedication, religion, a positive self-esteem, etc.
Any addiction can be beaten by implementing specific action steps. Every person is unique and action steps must therefore be devised individually based on the personality.
I can help you to identify action steps after a thorough assessment. Then I can help the clients to stay focused and motivated and to implement the action steps.
The goal is permanent recovery without any relapses. Family members are guided to be firm, specific and caring to prevent being manipulated and becoming enablers and co-dependents.
To help people beat addiction permanently by implementing specific recreational action steps.
To be an instrument in God's service so that He can empower people to beat addiction and recreate lives.
We do a needs assessment where we collect identifying particulars, abuse/rehab history and usage trends of the client.
We are a support system by helping people develop a positive outlook on life with a positive attitude.
Mentoring the development of an active and healthy lifestyle.
Identifying of cravings and triggers. Management of cravings and avoiding triggers.
Management of cross-addictions, dual diagnosis and psychological disorders such as depression and anxiety.
Developing and managing short term and long term goals.
Providing guided reflection sessions where we motivate the client to accept and forgive.
Assisting in the restoration of family relationships, providing marriage counselling and building positive relationships.
Assisting in finding employment and helping clients to manage their own finances.
Aftercare that includes individual sessions and linking clients with support groups to prevent a relapse. If a relapse occurs, to manage the relapse and to develop a new plan of action.
Provide information on drug abuse to family members, friends, collegues and the community.
When all else fails, to assist in court procedures and involuntary commitment at a rehabilitation centre of choice.
Fees are according to Medical Aid scales or a sliding scale, please enquire for further information.
Kobus, baie dankie vir wat jy weereens die afgelope 3 weke vir my beteken het.
Jy het my uit die diep gat van depressie kom ruk deur vertroue in my te stel dat ek weer iemand kan help om op te hou drink.
Jy het my net betyds uit daardie een-same kamertjie kom uithaal omdat ek op die punt van 'n relapse was. Hoe het jy dit geweet?
Jy het vir my 'n buskaartjie gekoop sonder om te weet of jy die R920 gaan terugkry. Ek het weer werk en `n toekoms om na uit te sien.
My stryd met die kliënt se gesuip het my vasbeslote gemaak om self nooit weer te drink nie.
Jou verslag gister het die familie tot aksie laat oorgaan na 'n vergeefse gesukkel vir 10 jaar.
Op 2 bladsye het jy die situasie presies reg beskryf en die regte aanbevelings gemaak om die gesin te probeer red.
Jy tref die kol suiwer op die regte plekke sonder dat jy self daar was en al die rolspelers ontmoet het.
Baie dankie ook vir al die vorige kere wat jy my gehelp en my lewe gered het, veral toe jy vir my losies gereël het na Ramot toe ek nêrens gehad het om te gaan woon nie.
Jy het gekeer dat ek onder die brug in Goodwood beland wat beslis my dood sou beteken het.
Ek is jou vir ewig dankbaar dat ek nie maar net nog `n dooie statistiek is nie.
Middag Kobus, ek moet jou gelukwens.
My psigiater sukkel nou al 5 jaar om uit te vind wat jy in minder as `n week oor my uitgevind het.
Jy weet presies watter vrae om te vra sonder om ons ongemaklik te laat voel. Dit leer `n mens nie in boeke of op universiteit nie.
Jy het `n passie om mense in nood te help en jy het die moed en vasberadenheid van `n bullterrier.
Jy hou nie op totdat jy vir almal as wenners uit die stryd laat tree het nie.
My kleinkinders is die spil waarom my lewe draai en ek sal alles doen om hulle nie te verloor nie.
Jy het dit dadelik besef en nie op my swakpunte gefokus nie.
Baie dankie, ek waardeer alles wat jy vir ons doen.
Baie dankie vir jou volgehoue ondersteuning en vertroue in my.
Ek het so nutteloos gevoel in Ramot en jy het my weer nuwe moed en rigting gegee.
Jy is heeltemal reg om te fokus op die positiewe aspekte in die lewe en in my persoonlikheid.
My nuwe, sober lewe is baie beter as die ou, dronk, lewensmoeg ek.
Met jou ondersteuning is die moeilike herstelpad baie makliker.
Kobus, I just want to cry of happiness but my cheek muscles won`t let me because I`m smiling soooo much!
God has answered my prayers not only to have somewhere safe to begin again after Ramot and heroin addiction, but let me share this with you: I prayed for a spiritual father here on earth and God answered that prayer too because He brought you into my life.
Thank you soooo much for arranging the halfway house for me and for showing trust and confidence in me that I will make it.
You will see my gratitude when you see me walk the talk.
I am soooo happy!
Kobus Pienaar is 'n mens wat geen moeite ontsien nie om vir 'n ander iets te kan beteken.
Hy dink niks daarvan nie om uit sy pad te gaan om 'n ander te help.
Hy is altyd blymoedig en sien kans vir enige probleem. Vir hom is die glas altyd halfvol, nooit halfleeg nie.
Hy het ons as gesin ondersteun in donker tye en ek het steeds die vrymoedigheid om hom raad te vra. Sy stem is troos. Sy teenwoordigheid 'n anker.
In tye wanneer daar geen hoop of hulp is nie het hy ingespring en ondersteun en moed ingepraat en praktiese oplossings gebring.
Hy is bereid om die ekstra myl te loop ten koste van homself. Hy maak tyd! Hy is altyd beskikbaar.
Kobus is bereid om die pad saam met sy medemens te loop. Na baie jare is hy steeds daar.
Hy volg sy kliënte/pasiënte/medemense op en behou kontak. Hy gee nooit moed op nie. 'n Mens met soveel integriteit, omgee en entoesiasme vir sy werk is dun gesaai en kosbaar.
Ek is dankbaar dat hy oor ons pad gekom het en nog steeds die pad saam loop.
Daar is 'n groter doel met sy lewe en ek glo daar is baie seën op sy werk.
Eerstens my opregte dank aan ons Hemelse Vader dat Hy my na Kobus Pienaar van CAD gestuur het.
Aan Kobus as hoof van CAD my waardering en dank vir sy begrip, onder-steuning en rigtinggewing aan myself en my seun. My seun is deur Kobus die geleentheid gebied om na Cornerstone plaas van Reno en Kaela te gaan vir werk en rehabilitasie.
My seun en twee ander mans het op 24 September 2016 op die plaas aan-gekom. Na slegs twee weke was daar al merkbare verandering in almal te Cornerstone waarneembaar. Almal het gelukkig voorgekom. Op die plaas word die pasiënte geestelik ondersteun en gemotiveer. Alhoewel hulle nie sonder begeleiding die plaas mag verlaat nie, kan hulle vrylik rondbeweeg op die plaas.
Die fenominale verandering en herstel wat reeds na 7 weke by elkeen van die mense op die plaas sigbaar is, is merkwaardig. Ek is oortuig dat die "behandeling" en die hele plaaskonsep die ideale wyse is vir die herstel en bemeestering van enige verslawing.
Die weeklikse byeenkomste van CAD groepe vir families, vriende en rehabi-literendes is nie net ondersteunend nie, maar ook geestelik verkwikkend en versterkend. Hierdie groepe is vir elkeen soos familie en 'n plek van veilig-heid waar probleme en versoekings vrylik bespreek kan word. Raad en ondersteuning word uitgeruil en versterk jou.
Kobus besoek gereeld na-ure die onderskeie groepe en sy besoeke is altyd verkwikkend, motiverend en baie welkom.
Die dienste wat die CAD aan afhanklikes en hul families bied is van onskat-bare waarde en is beslis wat broodnodig is met die groeiende probleme van afhanklikheid wat families, gemeenskappe en die afhanklike self finansieel, geestelik en liggaamlik vernietig.
Baie dankie aan God vir die wonderwerk wat met my en my seun gebeur het en aan Kobus wat die instrument was om dit te laat gebeur. Ek sal nooit die dag vergeet wat Kobus met my in my sitkamer gepraat het terwyl my seun in die kombuis weggekruip het nie. Kobus het baie hard gepraat sodat my seun alles kon hoor. Die boodskap het die deurslag gegee en het my seun op die regte pad geplaas.
Thank You letter from a mother
Goeie dag Kobus
Baie dankie vir die getuienisse wat jy gestuur het. Dis inspirerend.
Net soos wat jy ook ander inspireer en aanhou glo in ander.
Dat jy so bly glo het en soveel vir L gedoen het, is iets waaraan sy kon vashou die afgelope 10 jaar.
Dit klink asof dit goed gaan. Sy en R kom goed oor die weg en ek dink hulle beteken baie vir mekaar.
Hulle was Vrydagaand by 'n AA meeting. Ek weet nie of hulle by CAD meetings was nie (ek hoop so), maar ek wil ook nie te veel uitvra nie.
Ek hoop hulle wil gereeld gaan, want ek dink dit gee krag en 'n wil om te kan aangaan en om sterker te word en om staande te bly.
Ek kan maar net vir jou baie dankie sê en nie ophou om vir jou dankie te sê nie.
As jy nie daar was nie, weet ek nie wat van haar sou geword het nie...
Ek weet dat daar baie seën op jou werk is.
Moeder met hoop
Letter from a mother
1 January 2017
Gary: I miss my kids so much, sent them messages but no reply, this is really hell, the neighbour`s children ran in here wishing me happy new year, I wish God will come and fetch me, had a few invites but those people all drink.
Kobus: This is a struggle between Satan and God, your children are being used to punish you because your ex knows your soft areas and she has the control over your children.
G: They have been so made up against me, she forces them to phone me to ask for money but they are not allowed to phone or message me on Christmas or New Year. It really hurts. I bought myself a new wedding band because I want to model a clean life to them. She indoctrinated them so much that they simply don`t care about me.
K: She knows very well where you are vulnerable. We all know how much your kids love you.
G: Yahweh Rapha, in Hebrew it means "God is my Healer"
K: Brother, your suffering makes you stronger and it will pass. Can we meet Thursday? Your kids love you.
G: Definitely. Let me just get over today. I will go for a walk on the beach to think. Thursday is fine. It feels as if my kids feel nothing for me. I am so depressed and lonely. Nobody cares for me. I am putting my sobriety at risk.
K: Your ex brainwashes the kids against you. Alcohol will not solve this problem and will give her all the ammunition against you.
G: I agree. Will read a while and then sleep.
K: I send you this video "He raised me up".
G: Beautiful my friend. I am crying. How can I be raised up again?
5 January 2017
K: When and where can we meet?
G: Just give me some space as I am on dangerous anti-depressants and I cannot focus.
K: I am waiting for you my friend.
G: My sobriety is very vulnerable today.
K: Then we must meet today.
11 January 2017
K: How are you?
G: This is a up and down roller coaster ride. I struggle with the anti-depressants and sleeping pills. I am scared I will get addicted to pills. I struggle to act normally, my psychologist wanted to send me away for sleep therapy but I refused, the loneliness and isolation is too much for me, I do not even go to church any more, I do not want to be amongst people, my business is going under, I make poor deci-sions, my identity is ruined, I am a loser. I need help urgently, my psychologist was worried I would commit suicide when I could not see my children in December, I am dead inside, my mother passed away, I had heart surgery and got divorced in 1 month, I have no support structures left.
K: In my opinion you are still a winner because you did not relapse. Can you please help me to help others like we did 10 years ago? Your mother is in heaven with Jesus. Come visit me on 12/1 in Betty`s Bay.
G: I really want to, Kobus, but my self-esteem is gone. My ex-wife threatens me with interdicts and she wants to ruin me financially. She took out a restraint order against me when I could not pay maintenance, I may not contact her which means I have no contact with my kids, this is a power play and I am helpless. How do I get to Betty`s Bay?
K: Through Gordon`s Bay along the sea for 30 km. You are still a perfect dad.
G: How long is the drive from Betty`s Bay? I must meet my son at 1430 at the school. I can leave here at 0700.
K: About 90 minutes. See you tomorrow in Betty`s Bay.
G: I will come as early as possible.
K: Looking forward to see you again. Nice outing for you.
G: Looking forward to the outing. Better than my room.
12 January 2012
K: 0500 Looking forward to today
G: 0523 I overslept in spite of alarm clock. Coming!
K: 0717 I am at my office.
G: On my way!!
K: Great, water is boiling for coffee.
0830 to 1130 G started telling K about all the negative things happening to him, K asked G to keep that for later and took G for a tour of BB, showed him Neelkraal and the new deck, focused on all the miracles and positives in BB, how G and his kids will climb up Leopard`s Kloof in Harold Porter Botanical Garden, how they will walk from Dawidskraal to the red tobies, see the penguin colony, G started taking photo`s to show to his kids, discussed how G can help K in RECREATE Private Practice and at rehabs, G requested a prayer to end off a wonderful morning in BB.
G: 1617 Thank you for a wonderful day and for what you deposited in me. It was life changing for me. This was what I needed. May God bless you in abundance. I am proud to have you as my mentor. Enjoy Betty`s Bay. See you soon.
K: Jesus is our mentor and He was at work today through nature and His creation. I enjoyed the morning very much. I have missed you for many years. Please phone L and take the books to her.
G: I will do so later. Just helping my son with his homework.
K: I will send you a recommendation letter still today.
13 January 2017
G: I could not respond to your letter yet because I have been in tears all day. You made me realise how I de-valued myself and that I made my wife and children more important than God the last few years. I am busy making appointments with all my children to tell them the truth about my struggles. I am now taking ownership of my problems. Please give me time to get through this. I want to come to Betty`s Bay again as something amazing happened to me there.
K: I like your new cover picture taken at Jock`s Bay. Beautiful!
G: Through Jesus we can have an impact on other`s lives. Your letter of recommendation is spot on and reminded me of who I really am. I have sent it to my children and await their response. I have stopped taking anti-depressants and sleeping pills and I sleep like a baby. My son is with me the whole weekend. When I look at his innocent face when he sleeps, I realise how adults can harm children. Not me any longer. I am a new person. Life is great!!!! I have so much energy.
14 January 2017
G: God showed me the last few days that I have taken the credit for my sobriety when my people and my family praised me so much for my involvement with my kids and the church/SANCA/CAD. I also put my wife on a pedestal. In Betty`s Bay God showed me through you and the Holy Spirit that I stopped praising Him for my success. I con-fessed last night and asked God for forgiveness. It was God who opened all the doors for me after Ramot. Can we please discuss this further asap?
K: We can meet Monday at 1000 in Parow.
G: God spoke to me so deeply that it is scary. I was a fool in accept-ing the divorce settlement because I now lost all my retirement money. Fortunately my adult children are standing behind me and I am not alone in this battle. I will follow your advice and go see the lawyer with my children as witnesses.
K: Great. You confessed and asked for forgiveness and now you can relax and allow God to do the miracles in your life again.
G: I feel so good. My son and I are going for a run. God is GREAT!!!
15 January 2017
G: We witnessed a traumatic incident yesterday where I stay and I took my son to Kentucky to have an ice cream. We sat in a corner and cried and prayed together in front of all the people there. We gave the ice cream to bergies as we lost our appetite. We are going to church now. Today is a new opportunity for miracles to happen. I saw a cousin last night and I am going to help him to sobriety.
K: The Holy Spirit is in you.
G: After a veld fire everything is black and dead. Soon you will see the new green sprouts coming through the black. The intense heat awakened the seeds underground. In the same way we can also be part of recreation if we allow God to work. See you tomorrow. Thank you for the revised testimonial. It is very well written and it helps me to see myself in a new light. Praise God!!!
K: Look at this stunning photo of sunrise this morning in Betty`s Bay. Only God can make such beautiful sceneries.
G: Enjoy my Brother, I will be back there soon. I cried my heart out at church and had counselling after the sermon. I am emotionally drained after a session with my ex. My mother would have been 85 today.
16 January 2017
G: My ex wants to meet me for coffee on Wednesday. She is prepared to withdraw the restraining order but still wants to control me from a distance.
K: God is working with her. See you at 1300 at the rugby field.
17 January 2017
G: I must get away from my room, ex and old environment because it is hell to be so close to my kids and not being able to see them daily. I am in contact with a rehab centre to do spiritual counselling with the youth. I have to be busy as it is so depressing to sit in my small room all day. I can`t get work and business is very slow.
K: Focus on the positives in you and trust God for open doors.
G: I wish I can be as calm as you. Nothing seems to upset you. Yesterday my psychologist delved too deep and opened up all the old wounds.
K: Give the pain to God. He has a plan for you.
23 January 2017
G: I am on my way to Betty`s Bay. Just can`t stay away. Give your steering wheel to God and be obedient. Are you prepared to follow Him unconditionally?
K: Enjoy! Go meet the ladies of Touching Hearts. I will give you the leader`s numbers.
25 January 2017
G: I made friends with Barbara and Denise and yesterday I gave my testimony to these faithful ladies. Wonderful!! I am so excited!! They prayed so deeply for me and my family.
K: God is at work with you. He has great things planned for you.
30 January 2017
G: Thank you for arranging that I can go to Cornerstone to do 1 week of spiritual counselling. This is a good practice round for the work I have to do at the rehab centre. I feel needed again and there is purpose in my life. Help, support, empathy, testify is in my blood. Thank you so much for the opportunities you have created for me. Doors are starting to really swing open fast now.
K: That is because God has taken over your life again like 10 years ago. You did not allow Satan to succeed. Enjoy this exciting journey!
SMS chat with Gary
Anton: Help my asb. want jy het kennis en ervaring. Hoe kry ek my vriende en familie om nie aan alkohol te dink elke keer as hulle na my kyk nie?! Ek voel ek lyk na 'n bottel wyn as hulle so na my kyk. Ewe skielik het almal al die antwoorde!! Dit gooi my terug elke keer as ek dit beleef. Bo alles is ek tog 'n KONINGSKIND! Dit motiveer my so baie as mense soos jy en Theuns dieper kyk. Ek is so gefokus en op-gewonde oor my toekoms wanneer jy my weer motiveer het. Net vir ander om my weer te pootjie! Ek wil so graag net positief aangaan met my nuwe lewe sonder die las van pille en alkohol. Sal jy asb. my terapeut wees? Baie dankie, Kobus, vir jou kosbare belegging in my lewe!!
Kobus: Jy stap op 'n nuwe lewenspad, jy is gelowig, jy help en moti-veer ander waar jy kan, jy is 'n nuwe mens, wees net jouself soos jy graag wil wees, die wyn is weg en nou kan jy fokus op jou gawes.
Anton: Hoekom wil almal kastig nou vir almal vertel dat ek in Ramot was? Dis SKINDER en dit kry my ONDER! Hoe hanteer ek dit?
Kobus: Dis die duiwel aan die werk. Hou net aan om mense om jou te inspireer met jou positiewe geaardheid, bly vrolik en optimisties, ver-gewe hulle omdat hulle jaloers is op jou nuwe lewe, laat die Gees deur jou werk en doen positiewe dinge soos jou gebedsgroepies, meng slegs met positiewe mense.
A: Dankie dat jy bereid is om my terapeut te wees. Enige ander tera-peut sou my lankal in my peetjie in gestuur het. Ek sou beslis as ek 'n terapeut was. Ek kan nou weer my kop oplig en die wêreld in die oë kyk. Saam met Jesus kan ek die vyand stormloop!
K: Met jou getuienis kan jy baie ander mense se lewens verander en kan jy mense baie beter inspireer as ek. Jy het die donker gat van depressie, pille en alkohol oorwin en jou pyn verwerk. Dit is nie jou skuld dat jou verloofde verongeluk het nie.
A: Ek voel nou baie beter en gaan 'n ver ent stap. Baie, baie dankie.
SMS chat with Anton
As Program Manager at Ramot I met G in 2008 when he decided to stop using alcohol due to his heart condition.
The doctors said he only had 10% heart function left and that he needed a heart transplant to survive.
In Ramot he impressed me as a natural leader and he could motivate others to complete the program.
He started a support group as soon as he left Ramot and the first meeting was attended by 42 people.
Some meetings were attended by up to 72 people. We often worked together as G has a powerful testimony of how he changed his lifestyle after Ramot.
He has not relapsed once in spite of very trying circumstances. His wife supported him enthusiastically for a few months and she was very proud of him.
G was highly successful and he became the manager of church services at the Church where meetings were held.
He became very busy as many people started asking his advice about recovery.
On Mother`s Day in 2008 he testified to a hall full of women how he lovingly made breakfast for his wife earlier that day because he was sober.
He gave his testimony regularly to various audiences.
After a few months his wife forced G to withdraw from the group as she claimed that he spent too much time helping other people to beat addiction.
He had to agree as his marriage was very important to him. His wife did not allow him to look for outside work again as she said his heart was too weak.
During my home visits to the family G impressed me as a dedicated and loving father who would do anything to develop his children.
The children were well mannered and obviously very happy with their caring father.
G cooked, cleaned, washed and ironed clothes, walked his kids to school, helped with their homework, played with them, attended all school activities of his kids, built tree houses and go-carts, etc.
I took G along to a Welfare Organisation to do his testimony and motivate clients to beat addiction.
He did so well that he was soon elected on the Board and after a year he became the Chairman of the Board.
G started studying as pastoral counsellor to break the routine at home and to help others in life again.
He was a top student with top results. He was the keynote speaker at the graduation ceremony after his first year.
Due to his top performance his next 2 years of study were sponsored. After 3 years as student he started lecturing at the College.
This was terminated when his wife announced in public that G had an alcohol problem before and that he may relapse at any time.
The family then moved and we had less contact.
I visited G a few times and could see that there were marital problems.
G never stopped supporting and loving his kids. His recent divorce and being away from his children is very traumatic for him.
He drove from Cape Town to Betty`s Bay yesterday to share his dilemma with me.
In my opinion his medication affected his logical thinking and lead him to make irrational decisions lately and I advised him to discuss this with his doctor.
He told me that he even considered committing suicide.
The visit yesterday was very fruitful and G is determined to stand up for his rights as father and fight for his kids again.
I could see how God entered his life again with the help of the mountains, nature, sea and miracles happening in Betty`s Bay.
I plan to engage G in my private practice, RECREATE, as I have the highest respect for him as person, motivator, counsellor and friend.
His experience can help many others in similar circumstances.
The last few years were very testing but it adds to his testimony of perseverance and hope.
Recently his mother passed away, his divorce was finalised and he had heart surgery in one month.
In spite of all the trauma he did not relapse. He now stays in a small room without a bathroom.
I admire him for not relapsing to alcohol and rather returning to God as his Saviour.
He is busy starting a support group again.
Testimonial for G
Vir 35 jaar het ek rondgedryf in alkohol sonder'n reddingboei. Kobus Pienaar het telkens 'n reddingboei uitgegooi na my, maar ek was te swak om uit te reik daarna. Hy en sy helpers het egter ingeswem en die reddingsboei om my middel vasgemaak en my aan wal gebring. Ek het tot my sinne gekom toe ek sien wat op droŽ grond aangaan. Kobus het my met hulp, daad en raad bygestaan en vandag kan ek met 'n glimlag omkyk na my amper verlore lewe. Sedertdien is my lewe soos 'n reënboog vol verrassings en goud. Deur sy toedoen het ek vele geleenthede gehad om ander verslaafdes wat ernstige drankprobleme het, by te staan. Ek is vandag gesond met 'n goeie werk en menseverhoudings. Ek het weer 'n blink toekoms en het vrede in my gemoed. Na al die drankbranders van verwoesting op my gebreek het, is ek vandag 'n dankbare herstellende alkoholis. Ek weet ek kan nie sosiaal drink nie en aan- vaar dit so. Nou kan ek my ervaring, opleiding en kontakte gebruik om ander te help om ook die lig te sien.
Drenkeling in Alkohol